He, the Protector; She, the Nurturer

I have read, heard and felt that distinct role definition, both for men and women is a misty cloud, so what is the fuss actually all about?

Who is a man? What are his characteristics? He is the protector, provider and  secret lover.

Who is a Woman? She is the nourisher, nurturer and the affectionate lover.

Well, I agree women these days are independent, so they can fend for themselves pretty well. They have been thinking, working hard and achieving a lot in life. They earn their bread and butter, have a mind, are aware of their rights and expectations too. But, who said she doesn’t need that tough shoulder to rest her head on? Just like, who said he doesn’t need that smile and a warm-in-a million hugs from her.

I am not a feminist, and absolutely not speaking from that perspective. She doesn’t need a man to feed her, but definitely those balls, who treat her like a princess, gaze at her lovingly, compliment her, care if her phone battery is charged and hold her hand softly. All she needs is that unexpected red rose,that special note or text to make her feel feminine and loved and she all melts in your armsJLikewise, what characteristics hat, does a man want his woman to don ? Someone who is caring, loving, nurtures and supports his dreams, he wouldn’t bother if she works late or is shopaholic, he would still love her if the basis are met. God has made us like that, women harbor children, nurture them and the men protect from the big bad world out there and be their MAN!

So, it is not the case that she doesn’t need him anymore. It is just an evolution for her to learn outside the home or relationship and grow but she longs for her man, always! Just like he can quarrel with her, be confused and unfocused, but her peck and a sweet rub at the nose can make all the difference to him.She could be applauded a million by the world, but she waits for that one expression,on his face to gauze his reaction to the food she prepared especially for him.

Man and woman are made to compliment not intersect .We can’t deviate from our basic roles; we can only unlearn and learn and spread the wings together. It is only healthy, to mark the basic expectations out of each other. It’s affection and appreciation women look for and the provider wants to be assured that you think he’s tough and he can come to you no matter what. Yes you can!

Never forget the “you look handsome” \ “you look beautiful”, because to each other they appeal the most to the eyes, and the heart:)

Sarcasm Met Right

“Had a good laugh, eh?” “What is so amusing about this?” lashed an upset colleague at another, last week when he insanely laughed at her while she was conversing with someone else. The most talked about thing for the next two three days? Yeah right!

I, was rather not surprised at the strong reaction. Newton's advocation “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction” is very true, Iwoujtellya.[expression from catcher in the rye - J.D Salinger].Probably she was upset with him over an earlier instance or maybe she could not take sarcasm, especially from him.

There are these people who think they are very witty, humorous and all. They think they are jovial :/ trust me, only they think so! Trying to throw in sarcasm and satire - in the face, usually making people uncomfortable, is only their second nature. They sometimes realize that, and most of the times, do not. They could sometimes, be obsessively introvert and self absorbed to the extent that they don’t acknowledge the need for a topic or time. The loner in such people seeks attention en-route sarcasm.

 I mean humor is a good thing, but using it to crack somebody’s nerves, is hell bad! You (We) could be victim to their repetitive and unrelated jokes and get crazy and all, but they refuse to demean that spirit. You (We) politely try to turn them down but to no vain. And then one day, when the pot boils, it blasts!

The other day, while my manager was introducing the team to a new member over lunch, casually said that I was in to writing. This new team member asked me what I write about. Before even I could reply, spat another colleague “She writes at tehelka.com”.People were amused, I wasn’t. I write because this is my creative instinct. I enjoy doing this. I express my thoughts this way. How is that a itch on your bum, Mr. Sarcastic? He had only “nothing much” to say when asked about his interests in life.

You see the point? They are low on self-esteem and self-worth, hence the ego gratification – “If we are nothing, we believe- so are others”! This guy is actually an over sized creature with no artistic bend; he takes in opportunities to take a dig at others, lest his own traits be talked about.

I have come across several such people in life and though they manage to add up on my friend lists on social networking sites, they are just about there, because we can never be friends. For God’s sake, were you a clown your previous life thachya think it’s your godamm duty to make people laugh?

People actually stop crossing paths, citing such jokers, from a distance. I wish I could just smell their presence and vanish.You read it right, ignore them! Big time! like plaque, or else start pulling them down .Laugh out aloud when they are midway and scream! "funny man hahahha, very funny"."How, do you manage to be so pathetic?"

It’s good to make people comfortable while interacting rather than whip sarcasm and uncalled for humor. Try to make them smile, not laugh, else you flunk miserably.

A sub category amongst them, are the boisterous and blabbering kinds. They can talk endlessly, about their meager achievements, their fulfillment of life and how they are heading far better than everyone around, in terms of money, cars, relationships and even s**.You should look at everyone's faces, around that time. They seem to be listening but are actually - not listening. Even if they are ,they have heard all the nonsense over few hundred times and know it's just to fulfill that imaginative, false ego which is shouting for some attention.

My two cents to the self proclaimed humorous souls (read sarcasts):      

1. We are better off without your stupid jokes and after a point; we hate you irrespective of the kind of person you are because you radiate negativity.

2. You seem like lousy asses to us whoga nothing better to do in life.

3. We think you are short on self confidence and this is your way of gaining attention.

4. We never laugh at your jokes, we laugh at you.

5. We snub you, condemn you and would never like to hold acquaintances with you.

6. You come across the most negative souls across a bunch. You are demon, you are!

7. Lastly - every now and then, I clean up my friend list – so YOU, yes YOU are gone gone gone.

Book & Book :)

I planned to start my day with a book called "Catcher in the Rye" by J.D Salinger but, got in to a good conversation about the books called "The Secret" and "The power" (both by Rhonda Byrne) with my cab mate so I postponed Catcher  for a later time.

My laptop had crashed this weekend, so today I had all the time in the world to read while it was being fixed.Today, was probably a books discussion day for me, my manager knows that I love reading so he was sweet enough to bring me this book called "Guns , Germs and Steel" by Jared Diamond.It is about how civilisations developed and how the hunters and the gregerians went on to capture different parts of the world.Interesting,Yes!.Not the genre I usually read but I liked the part I read and hence I think ,will start liking these kinds soon.

Also I think my daily walk is reaping benefits as I felt good about myself today.So I rewarded myself with a keema parantha and a Costa Royale.Good thing is , I realised that vanilla flavors are not for me, in fact anything that leaves a sweet flavor on my taste buds.Better thing is that I plan to gift myself a RayBan Jackie Ohh on loosing the first five kilos, plan is to reward myself with non fattening items.:)

Day was good on the whole and I feel God has been kind.Hope and faith in my heart.Good people receive good.Belief restored.